On Death and Dying


Death – the one thing in life that is inevitable, not negotiable and totally unavoidable. The one thing that we all share a universal fear of.

Nobody wants to think about it. Death – This state of being that can happen at any moment, anytime and anyplace. It makes us vulnerable and creates a sense of insecurity that forms our beliefs and hampers our existence somewhat, even if we refuse to consciously acknowledge it.

It makes us feel mortal. It puts an expiry date on our existence. We would like to imagine we are here forever and that time is infinite. Well yes, that is true.

We are Eternal Beings and therefore we can never die! The physical rental vehicle that we have hired to use when we came to this planet Earth will have to be returned though.

Death can’t be cheated; we can’t con our way out of it. As a matter of fact, when a baby takes its first breath, that is when the cycle of death begins as well. Like a time bomb the ticking starts. Decay, degeneration and dissolution on a cellular level starts. Yes, the physical body has an expiry date.

What is this thing called death?

Nobody knows for sure what happens at that time when the body is left behind and consciousness separate from the physical and that is just how it is. There is an unspoken rule that we should not be too interested in this morbid thing called death. Yet, this thing called death that we try not to have awareness of, is as natural as breathing. There is a cultural taboo to educate children about this natural state. Maybe it is because humans are invested only in life and growth or maybe because we try to deny this ending of life and growth. All humans share in the basic desire to experience life and there is a lack of preparedness for death in our culture.

In the Prophet on death Kahlil Gibran says:

THEN Almitra spoke, saying, “We would ask now of Death.”
And he said:
You would know the secret of death.

But how shall you find it unless you seek it in the heart of life?

The owl whose night–bound eyes are blind unto the day
cannot unveil the mystery of light.

If you would indeed behold the spirit of death, open your heart wide unto the body of life.







The Ancient Egyptians were obsessed with death and the afterlife, they spent all of life exploring, thinking about and preparing for death. They saw it as a gateway into another life. Death was regarded as something one must prepare for during life and take care of after death. This is why Egyptians bodies were mummified and their tombs filled with possessions for the afterlife.

 Dr. Amit Goswami, Ph. D, states in Physics of the Soul (2001), “The moment of death offers us the opportunity for a creative experience of insight, but whether we have such an experience or what insight we might have, depends on our preparedness.

 Stages of death:

In her book On Death and Dying (1997) Dr. Kubler‐Ross describes the stages of death and dying as the following:

  • denial and
  • isolation,
  • anger,
  • bargaining,
  • depression,
  • acceptance,
  • hope.

These psychological stages are ones through which the dying person and/or those close to them may pass, and there is no specific order to them. They may re-cycle and be re-experienced at any time.

As a medical doctor, working with life and death in all its forms, I have observed the full spectrum of these stages. I have witnessed patients readily embrace their death with graciousness and then those fighting and refusing to relinquish their hold on that spark of life remaining in them.

 Stephen Levine is a contemporary spiritual teacher and writer who has worked extensively in the Hospice movement. With his wonderful ability to be openheartedly present to the reality of those who are dying, he encourages embracing the experience as deeply and non‐ judgmentally as possible.

In this way, he sees it as an opportunity for a deeper participation of life, one in which we open fully to death as a moment‐ by‐ moment experience in which all of life, in its most subtle changes, is expressed. Thus it is seen as a deeper healing and investigation, a process of not resisting the fear of death but rather surrendering in love as much as possible, albeit with support. For as he observes in his book Healing into Life and Death, (1987), “By 

fully participating in this moment, the next moment takes care of itself…it is not a matter of life or death, of healing or dying, but simply of life which includes death, healing which excludes nothing. It means living our death, healing our dying.”

What is the reality?

 Our perceptions mold our reality. In this physical dense, slow moving vibration we think everything is solid. The way we see reality is not necessarily the way it is and certainly not the only way it can be.

The way we view things determines how we experience them.

Thus if we are convinced that life is solid, that’s how we will experience it and that includes the limitations that come with that view. Understanding impermanence is understanding life.

Metaphysical view:

The question then becomes one of defining what this physical transformation consists of in metaphysical terms. Basically, it requires a change of vibration from the biological form—the physical manifestation—to a subtler form what can be labeled as an “etheric” level of being. As living organisms, the over‐riding reality we experience is the denser, slower vibratory rate of the physical dimension. Yet, our astral body, our etheric encasement is the part of ourselves which we have always experienced in a subtly energetic form, but of which we may not have been very conscious. 

Upon the falling away of the physical body, the etheric becomes the predominant mode of being. When this occurs, our consciousness is matched to the experience of the dimensional form in which it finds itself. The philosophy is that at other levels of dimensional existence the vibratory rate is more rapid and expansive than the denser, material plane of the physical body.

Near death experiences (NDE):

By definition, a near death experience is the process of coming very close to death, being unconscious or in a coma. One may even be pronounced clinically dead but then miraculously regain full consciousness, sometimes even days later.

NDE’s are fascinating chronicles of the dying or “dead” person experiencing otherworldly states of consciousness, sometimes in long‐ lasting comas. These experiences can give birth to lengthy descriptions and have become the subject of many new books.

It is hard to imagine what this state of consciousness might be and the essence of it at time of death, yet we can get a glimpse into that from all the cases of near death experiences, NDE’s that have been documented. Even though many of these cases are often ridiculed by the medical community there is a common thread to them all. The tunnel of light, the absolute peace and the fact that they didn’t want to return from this transcended etheric state of peace.

Read more https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Near-death_experience

Is death the end?

Sri Aurobindo says there must occur “the recoil of awareness from the perception of the vulnerability and mortality of the flesh.” (Quoted from The Grace in Dying, 1988.)

What does that imply? That we are not mortal? That it is only our perception of mortality of the flesh ……

Most spiritual traditions teach that death is not the end. It is merely the beginning of another part of the journey. A continuation of life in a different form. We are Eternal Beings, we have never been born and therefore we can never die. The physical is just a short stop on our eternal journey.

The Tibetan Book of the Dead is a set of instructions for the dead and the comprehensive system of training commences with life.

Life and death are integral elements of one great cycle. Maybe we can change our universal fear of death if we start embracing death as a new and exciting adventure, a beginning rather than an end!

Death is always a rebirth. Death of the physical body yes and yet the continuation of the unfolding of the consciousness.

How can we prepare for death?

Rob Nairn writes in Living Dreaming Dying 2002:
“the key is to train the mind to move from being self-centered to becoming generous and other-focused. Without the qualities of kindness and generosity it is difficult to overcome the obstacles to dying skillfully.

  • Generating positive energy
    • loving kindness
    • forgiveness
    • generosity
    • acceptance
  • Counteracting negativity
    • Releasing attachments
    • Forgiveness of self and others
    • Visualization
    • Meditation
    • Letting go, transcending consciousness
  • If you can be there for someone crossing over be there. It can be a great comfort to someone to have another human present when crossing over.
  • Support them in whatever they experience by maintaining calm and reassuring.
  • Assist them to cross without fear

How do we best prepare for death? 

  • Living life alive!
  • Laugh more!
  • Find Joy in something!
  • Forgive and forget!
  • Love all and especially yourself!
  • Let go of attachments!
  • The only person you can change is yourself!

If you are ready for creating something new and transformational contact us now for a Life Activation. For a certified Life Activation Practitioner in your area visit  https://www.modernmysteryschoolint.com/certified-professionals/

 It has brought a new infusion of life into many of my patients and clients and started them on a path of wholeness.

It has brought me understanding of that link between the human and the ethereal/spirit that they don’t teach us in medical school any longer. In the days gone by that was an integral part of medicine and the ancient mystics and medicine men knew that without the wholeness of mind, body and spirit there would be no end to dis-ease.

If you live a full life then at the end when death is near you can look back and reflect on a life well lived and a transition to something even more exciting, a new adventure. It is never too late to take that step towards wholeness and perfect health.


My best friend gave me

the best advice
He said each day’s a gift

and not a given right

Leave no stone unturned,

leave your fears behind

That first step you take is the longest stride

If today was your last day


And tomorrow was too late

Could you say goodbye to yesterday?

Would you live each moment like your last?

Leave old pictures in the past
Donate every dime you have?
If today was your last day

If today was your last day……………what would you do?


Divina Rita is a spiritual teacher who has dedicated her life in finding the modalities that can truly empower people to find their innate power.

She is a certified Healer, Teacher and Guide in the lineage of King Salomon and travels extensively to teach humans how to embody their Divinity. She continues to study hermetic and metaphysical concepts to find new ways to improve well-being of the mind, body and soul. She is an International Instructor in the Modern Mystery School and Founder of Limina Lucem Centre of Excellence. She passionately believes that optimum health comes from aligning the mind & body with Spirit. For more information about the school of advance spiritual training go to www.liminalucem.co.za or send a mail to dr.rita@liminalucem.co.za

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